When we hear the news that someone we know and love is in trouble, our hearts ache and we yearn to help to ease their burden. It is important to express this compassion in words and to let the people affected know that you are thinking of them. But you want to do more than that don’t you? You want to show that you care by offering practical help. Below are ten suggestions for things that you can do that will help to make life sightly easier and to let them know you care. But remember, ask first. No matter how keen you are to help, it will only be helpful if it’s needed and welcome.

Take them a meal

Meal planning is often the first thing to fall apart in a crisis and a home cooked meal from a friend will be gratefully received. See our list of meal suggestions. 

Help with the kids

This could involve such things as:

  • Help with homework, listening to readers
  • Driving to training , sport, dance etc
  • Making school lunches
  • Babysitting
  • Take the children out for an afternoon

Help with the housework

  • Laundry
  • Cleaning
  • Preparing meals 

Help in the garden

  • Mowing the lawn
  • Watering the plants
  • Weeding and fertilizing 


  • To appointments, treatment etc
  • Children to school, activities etc


  • For groceries
  • Things to take to the hospital
  • Emergency supplies 

Spend some time

Take time to talk and especially to listen because that might be exactly what your friend needs. Take them out for a walk, a coffee or a meal.  Don't judge or feel that you need to have the answers. Just listen and offer your friendship and your support.

Walk the dog

Or offer to look after a pet. This will ensure that there is at least one less thing to worry about. 

Contribute to a fundraiser

......if the situation calls for it. In some crisis situations, people need extra funds that are just not available. If the person concerned expresses the need for such support you should help where you can. But be sensitive. Financial assistance is often not what people need or wish to ask for.

Start a LOVLIST!

Here you can find everything you need to start a group to coordinate all kinds of support.